So today I will be talking about something interesting. About dating, online dating, flings, hook ups, relationships, chat rooms and so forth.Sounds great. I originally didn't ever want to get into this topic, but I didn't know what to write today. So I was talking to my friend and he told me that this would be a fun topic to talk about. I don't think so, but whatever I will. So you want to know the 411 on what I think about this? Well there's a lot to say. I don't even know where to begin. OK I thought of something! Let's start with dating, regular dating where you meet the person in person. That seems to make sense. Well how does that start? Does it start out as friends? I mean what gets you interested in a person? Some people say it's a person's strengths or it's their flaws. There is personality which is the social make up of a person. But that shouldn't be the only reason. There should be many other reasons. Honesty and confidence are key. Successful relationships are built on the right morals. I know that sounds sappy, but it's true. If a relationship is all physical then, when the fun is over what else is there to look forward to? The next hook up? Yeah, that can be fun for a while, but then when you realize that's all it is it can become dreary, don't you think? Then you are going to want to move on to something more exciting the next big thing. So then there's the break up. The break up is always a drag no matter who is dumping who. Wasn't I talking about good relationships? OK so good relationships should be fun, not too serious at first. It should be like a game, you just want to get to the next level and next. And if you loose the game, all you got to do is start over, but with someone new and better. Just like buying a better version of the game. Let's say you were playing Mario Bros, now you would play Guitar Hero. See it's as easy as pie. But pie isn't that easy, it takes time before the pie is ready and so does a healing heart. Wow look at all these metaphors, I'm on a roll. What's next? I really want to change topics, but I won't. Relationship, that's about all I think. What about online dating? That's kinda creepy. I mean you can't see the person through the other side. Unless of course video chatting. It's all bogus. You don't really get to know someone for real just over the computer. You can find out their interests and hobbies and likes and dislikes and turn-ons and turn-offs, but is that what it's about? I think it can be fun for a while, but what do you do the rest of the time. Don't want a real hug and a real kiss? Someone to hold you in their arms for real? All these false promises made through the cyber world is very depressing in the end. It has to be tangible if it's going to be something; meaningful. What about flirting? That's fun. It depends on the person, though. Some people are good at captivating their potential lover, but what about the shy or socially awkward people? Well, those people are the ones who retreat back to their computer or just give up and wait for someone will come too them first. To be honest, I'm kind of like that. When I like a person, it's really hard for me to communicate with them, so I either wait for them to come to me or it never happens. Now, if i don't have any interest in them, only for physical enjoyment or friendship then I am able very confidently to approach them. I know it's so weird, seriously Rachel why can't there be a balance? Well there can't. And that's just that.When I do get into relationships, I naturally become more prude, than I usually am. I like to get to know the person for who they are and not just what they want from me. I guess it's because I want them to see me for me and not just the physicalities. I also like the sweet little things, some of which may or may not be cheesy. Effort is the best, if a guy puts in a lot of effort to keep me, then I see it and I like it, unless of course the guy is a total creeper, who stalks me and won't stop talking to me 24/7. That is the biggest turn off. I need my space, too. I am very independent and like to keep it that way. I mean, I have friends who are in relationships and sometimes I wish I had that, but I know that he will come to me, I don't have to go looking for him. It's like I live in two different worlds. One, family and friendship values, thinking about the future seriously, striving for the best, for what I truly want deep down inside. And the other, is the definition of Hedonism, almost. I like to enjoy life. The enjoyment of meeting many people, attending parties, living a fun, care free lifestyle, is also a great aspect of my life.
OK. Now it's time for a new topic, this one is getting too touchy-feely. Tomorrow will be my last midterm exam. YIPPIE! Let's not get confused with the militant hippie group against the government during the 1960s. Yep. So I'm all out of topics for now, because I used all my energy for the previous one. So that's all for today, I hope you enjoyed!
Please feel free to comment! Oh before I forget thank you to anyone I may have asked for their opinions referring to the "romantic" topic. Yes, I asked some friends' opinions to help me think about this particular topic.
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